Self Actualization

These days I am relatively free at my work place…I work for the software industry where we are allocated to some project…and now a days whichever project I am getting allocated either that get scrapped or its release gets delayed. !!! Which gives me ample of time for myself…to carve my idle time into some useful stuff…like to chat in orkut or gtalk !![:P] even I can’t do these things properly as I am being watched by some or other person …….then the million dollar question is what should I do when I am “comparatively “ free at my workplace ?? Shall I spend my time attending some non relevant training?? Or shall “I explore the system “as suggested by them!!!! But despite of doing all these useful stuff I thought and lot to decide what I shall do…and decided to read some online books…I started off with “Princess Diaries” Meg Cabot …Once I started it..there was no looking back and I wanted to finish the whole series…I am still chasing this mission ..but a term used in this book inspired me a lot and that was “ Self Actualization” Like the main protagonist of the novel I also want to achieve “self actualization” And for achieving this state I have decided to follow the mantra of self respect !!
Self satisfaction and self respect will be my motivation!!! This is going to be my next mantra for pleasant and happy life…some months back I quoted ….”forgive and ignore” then my mantra…and found it quite successful for pertaining peace…so now onwards I will try to follow the second mantra…” Ignore and avoid “because its you and your family and your close niche of friend who is centre of your world … anyone out of that criteria should not affect me neither physically nor mentally, lets se how much I can follow this rule no.2 because I find it quiet difficult…
May be some day I will be also able to achieve “ SELF ACTUALIZATION”
I wish myself all the best !! So that I may achieve it !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Forgive and Ignore

Life is really a big game...or rather to say a tough game....but this statement itself is very obnoxious or illusive in nature !!! because when we see or take life as a game....we are more concerned about the results... whether we win or lose !!! Due to which we start taking each and every small phase of life as an tournament. and when we think about those moments we react accordingly..depending upon the results....
When we were kid, we used to be the king of the house ! all our needs and necessities were taken care by some or the other person...whether we are hungry ,or we need to play...or may it be the simple case of nature's call there used to be some one to take care of it... then when we grew a little bit...those people surrounding us expected us to take care of pretty simple things...which they used to take care ! This is a simple transformations.. then we grew up a little more.. now we were expected to take care of each and every action of ours and expected to perform as per the social; rules and demands.. now it was the time every where we faced the challenge of survival for the fittest....................... And beyond our own expectation and imagination we survived... we survived for our own existence and for our own desire to be there...where we are.!
Now we know we are young, responsible for all the needs and deeds of ourselves...here we have to be not just ourselves but also themselves... I know this is quote is itself quite ambiguious,but I really believe it... I am a person who is very particular and specific by nature...Sometimes I have faced very awkward and abrupt situation due to this....and the root cause of those was my expectation from the fellow mates to be particular, specific in all those things which I used to... and when I didn't get them...I took it as a matter of life and death..a matter of win or lose....but now when I have faced several situations...I have not left my nature of being specific and particular ...because I think that's my USP..but I have learnt not to expect it, not to expect this from my surrounding, there have some time in my past when I have eradicated all my desire and needs in a day just due to bad or spoiled mood...which atlast effected me ...it was me who was always in loss..because, The person who cause this to me was totally unaware of his/her action, as it was not crucial for them as it was for me, I don't blame it to anyone !!! And believe me, it helped me a lot, a lot in living this life truly , the way I want to live it !!! I don't advice this world to leave their desire to turn into some one else but I just request this to all those person who love life and want to live it to fullest.
True mantra of living the life peacefully and without tensions is " Forgive and Ignore". Forgiving everyone for all those things which effected you and ignore ...because that will effect only and only you....finally the loss will be yours!!!